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April 9, 2012

Choosing Between An Old Friend Or Someone New As A College Roomie

Let’s face it. One of the biggest adjustments you will make when moving to college is moving into a residence hall. Unfortunately, most dorm rooms in freshman residence halls do not feature glamorous apartment style living where you have your own bedroom and personal space. In all likelihood, you will be sharing a cramped room, smaller than your bedroom at home, with at least one roommate. While the prospect of doing this with a complete stranger seems terrifying, making the decision to room with an old friend can be a far worse experience.

Here are a few things to consider when choosing between an old friend or someone new as a college roomie:

Life Experience 

One of the benefits of attending college, other than getting an education of course, is gaining new life experiences. Learning to live with someone new at college is exactly that… a new life experience! It’s also a great way to branch out and meet new people of varying backgrounds, expanding your horizons.

Personality Traits

Choosing to room with a friend can put a lot of stress on a relationship. Just because you get along well with your friend at school or when hanging out does not mean that you can live together in harmony. Maybe you admire that your friend is the spontaneous one who could care less about what others think while you are the clean and responsible one. This could translate into your trying to adjust to a disorganized roommate when you need organization to make good grades. Spontaneity may be something you need in small doses. So to save your friendship you may want to take advantage of your school’s housing tools to find a roomie with similar personality traits that will translate into a well organized and clean living space for you.

Setting Boundaries 

The idea of moving into your dorm room with a stranger can be intimidating, especially the first time you do it! The idea of rooming with an old friend may seem more comfortable because they are like family. Speaking of family… remember those times at home when you fought with a sibling over clothing or when your mom got mad at you for taking her hairspray? When you have a new roomie, you’re not as comfortable borrowing their things without permission. It’s much easier to set clear boundaries when living with someone new. And if it doesn’t work out with your new roomie, it won’t cost you an old friend.

Regardless of whom you choose to room with at college, be sure that you have agreeable personalities and can set clear boundaries.

Live Dorm Smart!

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